Jan 092011
 
Without Viagra

Without Viagra

Sometimes my sex life reminds me of those math problems from middle school. Something like…

“If Harold has two women, and he has a date with one every Sunday and the other every Tuesday, and 10 Viagra pills cost $180 each month, is it worth taking a pill on Thursday night if there is a reasonable chance of sex?”

When the insurance stopped paying for Viagra, each sexual encounter suddenly became an equation. Like, if we have $180 budgeted for Viagra every month, that’s 10 times a month that Harold can get super-hard. More than that probably wouldn’t be good for Harold anyway, as he tends to get headaches, alleviated only by lots of water (and really good sex). So when should he use those pills?

Harold tends to ask if he should take pill. It puts me in a quandary. I like for him to be as hard as possible because I think he enjoys it more and it makes some things easier. On the other hand, we have always had spectacular sex with or without Viagra. We may not need the boost, but do we really want to stop in the middle to bolster a flagging erection? We usually do fine, but a fine hard-on is a happy thing. My issue is always, what if he takes the pill and then I change my mind and don’t want to fuck? Is agreeing to a pill an agreement to have sex? Because when he asks, I’m not always sure that I want to have intercourse. That $18 feels like a commitment. Or as recently happened, Harold takes Viagra and then an emergency happens. $18 wasted, 1 pill out of 10 wasted, damn.

With Viagra

With Viagra

I think for Melanie, it’s more that she wants to feel like her experience was worth $18, although anything that we would do if we went out would cost more than that, right? But she wants to know that she got her money’s worth.This math-problem sex is complicated! We haven’t even factored in what Harold wants.

Harold should probably just take Viagra whenever he wants to. He’s being polite by involving me in the process. I know he’s asking me if there is a more than likely chance that I will want to have penetrative sex, but we have sex 98% of the time – even when I don’t think we will. Asking me if I want to have sex in the near future is likely to garner a no. I just don’t know for sure until I’m in the moment.

Then there are the emotions around Viagra that complicate everything. Harold hates that he needs the drug in the first place. For him it’s a reminder that he let himself get out of shape. (I think he’s in very fine shape, but he gets to feel whatever he wants.) I worry that he needs Viagra more than he used to because he’s less attracted to me. You can see how these things might get in our way.

Pfizer, who makes Viagra has been making a bundle – $962 million in the U.S. alone in 2009. They’ve raised their prices every year until their price is now $14 per pill at the wholesale level. I’ve heard that Viagra prices should start going down in March of 2012 as they lose their first patent. I’m not holding my breath, but can you imagine prices dropping by 80%, or more? So many people use Viagra now, how many more don’t because of the cost? I like to envision the sexual revolution that will hit!

Who knew that Viagra use led to math? What I need to keep in mind is this:Equation

  • Anonymous

    Fancy you factoring in what Harold wants! :-) You are so … broad-minded. (Feel free to run with that one.)