May 072011
 

I’m a slut.

EvoëI’m just going to reclaim the word. Say it with me, I’m a slut and I’m proud! Doesn’t that feel better? Own it, Baby. Do you wear fishnets or thigh-hi stockings to work? Slut. Do you make out more often than shaking hands? Slut. Do you take every opportunity to shed your clothes and shake your ass? Slut. Do you pose for nudie pics? Yep, slut. Being a slut sounds like a lot of fun. We should all embrace our inner slut and do the things that make us feel sexy.

Even though I don’t normally consider myself slutty, I’ve been thinking about the word a lot lately. Slut has been in use since the 1300’s. Chaucer used “sluttish” to describe a male, but it’s usually an insulting term used to call a woman dirty, slovenly, and sexually indiscriminate. In “The Ethical Slut” by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (which you should read if you haven’t already), they define slut as, “…a person of any gender who celebrates sexuality according to the radical proposition that sex is nice and pleasure is good for you.” and go on to say, “Sluts share their sexuality the way philanthropists share their money…” Yes! That’s exactly how I feel. I am a slut.

Except that yesterday Harold and I were in bed talking about how I feel when I want to be topped and the concept of being a slut come up. Harold is a slut and likes using the word to describe the most deliciously depraved kind of person. He was asking me if I want to be topped when I feel like a slut. Well, yes, but not the happy kind of slut I normally feel like. When I’m in that mood, I am a slut who is prurient and self-loathing. I have a voracious appetite for sexual humiliation. It was interesting for me to look at that. Sometimes I am a dirty slut. I claim that too.

Hot slutI claim slut for my own use, just like fuck and cock and cunt, to be used the way they were meant to be used. I’m tired of there being so many ways that we insult each other over being sexual and not enough good words to talk about the wonderful things we do in these bodies. I like slut. I like that it’s fairly gender neutral. I like the way it slides over my tongue and darts between my teeth. I like that slut sounds like slot – and we all have slots, made for fucking. I am a slut that likes to fuck!

Slutwalk Seattle is coming up on June 19th and I plan on walking. The idea behind Slutwalk is that everyone should be able to wear whatever they want without fear or danger of sexual assault. In fact, rape happens even when women are wearing ratty sweats and a baggy sweater. Blaming the victim is never acceptable. I’ll be walking because I can be the biggest slut in the world and still have the right to say no – at any time, to anyone. I can dress like a slut and act like a slut and still own myself. So can every other slut out there. Come on out sluts!