Oct 192011
 

Working up to fistingA couple of my favorite names in porn, Courtney Trouble and Jiz Lee, have declared October 21st, Fisting Day. Fisting is the act of inserting a whole hand into the vagina or anus. While fisting is a beautifully intense sexual act, it is rarely depicted in porn because mainstream distributors won’t show it. Courtney and Jiz are coming out to say that hand sex is amazing. We want to support them in that stance.

I’ve never done any anal fisting, but I’ve experimented with vaginal fisting. It started about 5 years ago with my girlfriend handing me a copy of A Hand in the Bush by Deborah Addington. I read it cover to cover. And then my husband read it. It’s not a very long book, but it covers the world of vaginal fisting quite well. Sadly, I never did any fisting with that girlfriend, but I owe her a debt of gratitude for the introduction.

My first “hands on” experience was with my husband’s girlfriend. I loved playing with her because it was so easy to get her off. One evening, after a dozen or so g-spot orgasms, I started slowly easing my whole hand inside her. That moment when the widest part of my hand slipped inside, her eyes widened and met mine. There was such an intense connection between us. I can’t imagine a better way to feel that close to another human being.

It’s harder for me to be receptive with fisting. I have found that it’s a very good thing to do if I’m not in the mood for fucking, but want to feel close. Harold and I have been exploring fisting. Generally, we start with an orgasm or two, then he slowly uses his hands, tongue, and a some tools, like vibrators and nipple clamps to turn me on and stretch out my cunt. It takes us about 45 minutes to get to the point where he pushes past the wide part of his hand.

Harold’s hands are rather large. He has long elegant fingers. When we get to that point where his whole hand could go in, it tends to be a bit uncomfortable. I’ve only been able to relax enough to pleasure through it a few times. I’m usually goal-driven rather than open. And sometimes I can’t handle anything in sex that reads like pain. But when it has worked… astounding. Breathtaking. Totally hot. Lovely. Like a closed circuit between us.

Working up to fistingEven though we don’t always go all the way, I adore fisting. I like the feeling of fullness. I like permission to focus on me sexually in a context that I don’t feel guilt over. It’s just what the process is. My job is to relax, open up, and feel good. It’s amazing stress reduction and fabulous for our relationship. I’m opening up in more than one way.

Still with me? Think you might want to try some fisting? If this is your first time, Babeland has a good easy guide for how-to, Vaginal Fisting. Be sure and use lots of lube! Take off your rings and trim your nails. And have fun. Happy Fisting Day everyone!