Oct 112011

National Coming Out DayToday is National Coming Out day (recognized internationally)— a day for people to honor and celebrate sexualities that are sometimes dangerous to embrace publicly. October 11th is the anniversary of the 1987 National March on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights. In 1987 I was 14 and being raised by lesbians. Things have changed a lot since then. I am so grateful to everyone who marched or in other ways were open about who they are. So many courageous people have taken huge risks to make it safer for my children to be whoever they end up being.

WholeSexLife is all about normalizing all kinds of sex. We support just about anything consenting adults choose to do with each other: We support people’s right to express their unique gender identity, we support solo sex, partnered sex, multi-partnered sex, and in some cases, no sex, and we support everyone’s right to own their bodies. The brilliant thing about National Coming Out Day is that it gives us each a chance to say who we are, for the world to see. I believe that even that small thing helps change the world in massive ways.

So… I, Evoë Thorne, am a  kinky, polyamorous, pansexual, gender queer femme with an emerging masculine side. I enjoy bondage, cock and ball torture, and anal play. I consider myself married to two men. I am attracted to people of all genders – or rather, I am attracted to people, not gender.

No shocking revelations there, but I think it’s important for me to own my sexual identity. My sexuality is also constantly evolving. It’s useful to think through it from time to time. It’s good to say, this is who I am and I’m proud to be this person. So celebrate National Coming Out Day with us and think about your sexual self. Share those thoughts with someone else. Share them here. Shout them out loud! But be proud.