Feb 062012
 
David Steinberg 2011

David Steinberg 2011

Simultaneous orgasms are kind of a holy grail for me. I love playing and letting the erotic charge build between us, but when we start getting close to coming, I want it to happen at the same time. It feels incredible, like the orgasm gets reflected and amplified. I feel like we are both wide open to each other. It’s a blissful place, full of love and joy.

Of course, orgasms are, by their nature, ecstatic. It feels good to come. Period. But it feels that much better to do it together. I know for some people it takes some practice to figure it out. I’m lucky that I can orgasm from vaginal sex, which is not all that common. We came together our second time fucking and have just kept on coming together since. It feels like a part of who we are as a couple.

We don’t always orgasm at the same time. It works best if I’m on top because I’m most likely to come that way, but we have also been successful doggy style or missionary or a number of other positions. We probably come together about two thirds of the time. It feels vaguely dissatisfying when we don’t both orgasm during sex – nice, but not quite right. Sometimes we decide not to have penetrative sex and that’s fine. I like to get him off with my mouth and hands. I adore his hands and mouth. Those things are all yummy flavors, I just really prefer the spiraling bliss of coming together.

I think it’s more than just timing. We have something I’ve never experienced before. Seems like anything that feels incredibly good to me, also feels just right for him. Following my pleasure gets him off too – and his obvious enjoyment turns me on even more. We feed off of each other, encouraging explosive orgasm. Physiologically, I imagine that increased arousal adds heat. For example, I’ve heard that vaginas get a couple degrees warmer at the point of climax. Wouldn’t that make his orgasm more likely? Energetically, we are both so turned on by the other’s happiness. We open up to love and find ourselves.

David Steinberg 2011

David Steinberg 2011

I don’t force anything. I listen to my body and follow his cues as well. We are very open to each other. The natural result is often simultaneous orgasm. We come together because we are together, and it makes me happy.

 

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  • Silenus

    I feel simultaneous and individual orgasms both have their place. The lovers I’ve had for a number of years and I have developed ways of being sexual that are unique to us and very satisfying. In some cases we each do each other separately. In at least one, we have developed a way to increase our sexual energy together so we both come within about 20 seconds of each other. And sometimes we do that, and sometimes I hold off and fuck her for a few more minutes, which she likes just as well. And of course there are situations like four on one erotic massage where everyone gets their turn at being thoroughly done.